tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2009-11-08:/MokoFeed2009-11-08T13:24:13+01:00tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-26:/2007/02/26/it_s_all_over~1805696/#c28952452007-02-26T10:26:55+01:002007-02-26T10:26:55+01:00Hi,<br> <br> Sorry to hear you are so upset.<br> <br> I honestly think it is for the best. To say that you were having an argument with him about him having sex with his wife in your special place and then you had sex with him says it all.<br> <br> He has really damaged your self esteem. You are better than that and you need to value yourself more.<br> <br> I am worried that he has ended it and claims it is "just a break".<br> <br> You need to cut all ties.<br> <br> Today is the first day of the rest of your life.<br> <br> It will be hard, especially in a few weeks time when you are feeling lonley, but you must resist all temptation to contact him.<br> <br> Delete his numbers now so it becomes harder at a time of weakness.<br> <br> I have been there, for ages I have had to resist the urge to contact my ex.<br> <br> Please, please, please move on from Hugh.<br> <br> He will never leave his wife for you, his type never do. You will just be wasting your life as the other woman, I have seen it before. Your self esteem will wither away over the years if you do.<br> <br> And if you go back to him it will be worse.<br> <br> It is so hard breaking up, especially if you are not the one who broke it off.<br> <br> I trully understood the words of so many songs when I was first dumped last year.<br> <br> I have loved the UB40 song Red Red Wine for years, but the words took on a completly new meaning after I was dumped.<br> <br> I still cannot listen to some songs that I had on my CD player at the time because the memories are to painful.<br> <br> Best wishes,<br> VB.tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-26:/2007/02/26/it_s_all_over~1805696/#c2894195Gumbanu2007-02-26T02:04:19+01:002007-02-26T02:04:19+01:00'My mum always warned me about guys like him - ones who say a bunch of bullshit to have their way with u, fuck u, and then dump u.' ... or ones that happen to be married?tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-25:/2007/02/12/title~1726137/#c2892856devilsadvocate132007-02-25T21:44:53+01:002007-02-25T21:44:53+01:00oi whats happening with the married man et al? tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-16:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c28208012007-02-16T02:22:41+01:002007-02-16T02:22:41+01:00Hi,<br> <br> Thanks for the email, I've sent you war and peace back!<br> <br> Honestly, it will never work with him, just end it. Tell her straight not to phone you or get in touch.<br> <br> I she does go to the police, if she is a psycho you won't be able to handle her alone.<br> <br> Don't stick with it just because of her.<br> <br> You have a whole life in front of you, one day you will "dine out" on this story, as may with my brothel story!<br> <br> You are young and experiencing life, just move on learn from the experince both good and bad.<br> <br> I am sure you can have good sex with a more stable suitable guy and find true love in a relationship as well.<br> <br> Not every relationship has to be for keeps it just has to be good and right for the time, can you honestly say that about this one?<br> <br> Best wishes,<br> VB.tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-13:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c28041562007-02-13T23:35:08+01:002007-02-13T23:35:08+01:00The proof will be if he really spends valentines day with you....my guess is no.<br> <br> Enjoy experimenting and don't have a guilt trip about doing Patrick twice as others have said it is a small sign that you are moving on and enjoying some independence.<br> <br> RHT xxtag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-11:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c2786195GoldCar2007-02-11T19:58:24+01:002007-02-11T19:58:24+01:00i know i have often considered getting a new number, but she also has my home number (no idea where she got it from) and i think she knows where i work (well she knows my work email, so all she needs to do is google it!). i know she does have the right to hassle me, but i'm not exaggerating or being ott when i describe her as a psycho!!tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-11:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c2786107GoldCar2007-02-11T19:50:33+01:002007-02-11T19:50:33+01:00his wife is 22. shes only 3 years older than me, altho she talks to me as tho shes so much older and i'm a little schoolgirl. its been like that a lot, where shes having a go at me and hes in the back, just chilling. and now u mentioned it, it is wierd and just wrong!!!! loltag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-11:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c2780642devilsadvocate132007-02-11T00:22:35+01:002007-02-11T00:22:35+01:00wow what a mess goldcar... been in a similar situation myself, and i know its very hard coz of all the hormones pumping but just dump and forget ! Its really not worth it girl !!tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-05:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c27398572007-02-05T19:27:16+01:002007-02-05T19:27:16+01:00Right,<br> <br> BIN YOUR PHONE, NOW!<br> <br> Move on forget him.<br> <br> Not sure about Patrick, but don't worry about that now.<br> <br> Just move on fast from huge!<br> <br> Best wishes VB.tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-05:/2007/01/29/my_first_entry~1641257/#c27397962007-02-05T19:20:38+01:002007-02-05T19:20:38+01:00Hi,<br> <br> I hope you get as much out of blogging as I have.<br> <br> Best wishes,<br> <br> VB<br> (I started blogging becasue I am a 33 year old man who is still a virgin, funny old world isn;t it!)tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-05:/2007/02/04/title~1680606/#c2737912whoknows2007-02-05T15:13:32+01:002007-02-05T15:13:32+01:00OMG!!!!! These two are really dragging you into their horrible little situation, I really think you should run, and NOW! That whole scene where you were arguing with the wife and he was there at the same time, that is just weird. I think these people have a nasty little dysfunctional relationship, and having you around gives them someone to blame instead of dealing with their problems. He is in his 30s, and presumably she is older than you too? So why are they acting like teenagers? This is weirdly horrible, and you should get out and get on with seeing other blokes. <br> <br> Luckily the other stuff will hopefully distract you - the cheating is a sign that you are subconsciously moving on, even if consciously you don't want to. Good thing too! tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-02-05:/2007/01/29/my_first_entry~1641257/#c2737859whoknows2007-02-05T15:05:02+01:002007-02-05T15:05:02+01:00Oh dear, I really sympathise, it's a horrible situation. <br> <br> However, I think that he's not going to leave his wife. This man has it made: his wife keeps on forgiving him, and now you have given an ulimatum (dump her by the end of the year, or you will dump him) and then not followed through, so he knows he has you where he wants you. Easy for me to be wise, but never ever give an ultimatum unless you are sure you can follow through (I learned that off Jeremy Kyle!).<br> <br> I know exactly what you mean about the virginity thing, but I wasted three years of my life for the same reason, so I'd advise against it! I know it feels like he is the best thing in the world, and that you really love him, but in five years' time you'll look back and wonder how the hell you put up with this for so long.<br> <br> I'm talking from the other side of the fence here: I'm a married woman having an affair, and I'm getting a divorce even though I've only been seeing my Gorgeous Boy since Christmas. <br> <br> Your married man is having his cake and eating it. I think you should get out so at least he misses out on the icing!tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-01-30:/2007/01/29/my_first_entry~1641257/#c27006672007-01-30T23:02:54+01:002007-01-30T23:02:54+01:00Thinking of you tonight lady and so glad you have been able to write things down, it may just help you make the decision only you can make...<br> <br> You obviously have some difficult choices to make but you don't have to stick around just because you lost your virginity to him. That's not a good reason, you stay with him because you are happy with the relationship and because you can't be without him...<br> <br> If you do decide to leave him it sounds like you will have no problem finding another Mr Right. I don't believe there is only one Mr or Mrs Right but you are right in that if you commit to someone it should be for life...<br> <br> How many guys have tried to chat you up or ask you out on a date while you have been seeing this guy?<br> <br> Remember every cloud has a silver lining and as Ronan Keating sings 'Life is a rollercoaster you just gotta rid it'<br> <br> Take care,<br> <br> RHT xx <br> <br> <br> tag:dear-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-01-29:/2007/01/29/my_first_entry~1641257/#c2686448Sian2007-01-29T01:34:10+01:002007-01-29T01:34:10+01:00Glad you have this to 'talk' to. Blogs are good at helping with hard stuff you can't face telling other people. I hope you can find a way through all this, it's an impossible situation to be in. *hugs*